And so I thought I would write down my reasons for WHY I really want children, beyond the maternal desire, of which I can do NOTHING about, in the hopes I can start to LIVE my life TODAY, rather than getting through each day, waiting for the future when I am a Mum and my life can begin (how crazy am I?). I guess I am looking for a way I can feel COMPLETE without having children.
WHY DO I WANT CHILDREN?
To give the holidays meaning, and so I can have big family holiday gatherings when I am older.
To give life ‘meaning’.
To give a reason for play, to watch the Wiggles, and Thomas, and hang at the park.
To go places.
To have family holidays.
To have subjects to photograph and scrapbook.
To fill my heart.
To give me an excuse to be mushy.
So I have kids who are mine, ones I don’t have to give back, and can raise MY way.
To buy cute clothes.
To buy fun toys.
To throw birthday parties.
To watch them play sport, or dance, or sing, or act, or whatever they choose to do.
To teach and encourage and help grow.
To take care of.
To guide along their journey.
To feel like I belong, am the ‘same’ as everyone else, not left out of the ‘my child did this’ conversations
BENEFITS TO BEING CHILD FREE
We can pack up and go anywhere, anytime we want
We do not have to find babysitters when we decide we want to go out
We have double income, and less expenses
We don’t have to deal with tantrums, and illnesses.
We don’t have to worry about outside influences, and what to protect, or not protect, our children from
No one is judging our parenting skills
WHAT I CAN START DOING TO LIVE EVERY DAY
Play with, and train Stella, to do agility on my days off
Tramp and explore the Taranaki region, weekly
Go for drives, to explore and photograph the region, weekly
Go out for dinner once a month
Go out for lunch once a fortnight
Take Stella to beach once a fortnight
Decorate and style the house
Decorate and style myself
Design and plant my garden
Scrapbook photos of TJL and me (just because we do not have children doesn’t mean that we are not doing stuff worthy of documenting)
Organise a decent calendar so we remember important dates
Try and be brave and invite other people to socialise with